Ways to Maintain Happy Marriage in the New Era

Under the fast-paced world nowadays, couples are constantly juggling work, family responsibilities, and raising children. Unfortunately, this busy lifestyle often results in reduced communication between partners or even more frequent disagreements. Statistics reveal that the divorce rate in Hong Kong has risen over the past three decades, with the crude divorce rate increasing from 1.11 per 1,000 people in 1991 to 2.82 in 2019. Maintaining stability and happiness in marriage amidst the demands of modern life has become a challenge for many couples.

To better handle the pressures of living, couples must learn how to communicate effectively and support each other. Kay Ho, a multimedia artist, programme host, and marriage counsellor in Hong Kong, shares advice to help couples maintain strong and healthy relationships.

Address Emotions First, Then Solve Problems

Healthy communication should be rooted in love, understanding, and tolerance. Many couples tend to jump into arguments when problems arise, often ignoring each other’s emotional needs, which can escalate the situation. Kay highlights the importance of addressing emotional needs first before tackling the problem rationally. “When we take care of each other’s emotions and show care and support, communication flows more smoothly, and problems become easier to resolve,” he explains. He suggests that when conflicts arise, couples should first handle their emotions and find an appropriate time to discuss solutions together.

Kay also emphasises that “many arguments stem from trying to change your partner, which is not a healthy approach.” Each person has a unique background and habits, and instead of criticising or attempting to change each other, partners should learn to accept the differences between them. This mindset can strengthen their emotional bond.

Keeping the Spark: Staying Romantic and Caring

A successful marriage is built on love, and maintaining intimacy is vital to keeping the relationship strong. While the sense of closeness may naturally fade over time, Kay reassures couples that this does not mean the love is fading. “Couples should actively invest time and effort into nurturing intimacy,” he advises. “Even in the busiest times, it’s important to make time just for the two of you, whether through regular date nights or simply sharing enjoyable moments together.” These emotional investments help strengthen the bond between partners and deepen their understanding of each other.

Simple daily activities like dining out, going for walks, or travelling together are effective ways to enhance emotional connection. Small gestures of care are equally important for maintaining intimacy. “Sometimes, a simple word of encouragement or a thoughtful gesture can make your partner feel truly loved and supported,” Kay emphasises.

Growing Together: Supporting Each Other Through Challenges

Kay underscores that couples should support each other and grow together when facing challenges. “Marriage isn’t a one-person battle; it’s about facing life’s difficulties as a team,” he explains. Couples should share responsibilities, whether managing financial pressures or household duties, and tackle them together. This approach not only deepens their mutual understanding but also strengthens their unity in the face of difficulties. As they grow together, couples will build trust and strengthen their bond.

In today’s hectic world, Kay reminds couples to “prioritise emotions before logic,” nurturing their emotional connection through love and understanding to create a solid foundation for a lasting, fulfilling marriage.